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Don’t Forget It’s Your Wedding Day
Your wedding day was meant to be the one true day where the
world revolves around you - at least that what we grow up thinking, imagining
the whole Cinderella ball with our dream dress and Prince Charming.
Unfortunately,
what often happens is a bride allows too many cooks in the kitchen and suddenly
it's someone else's dream coming true and the wedding day dream is dashed.
It's
not your fault. Planning a wedding (even if you have the help of a professional
wedding planner) is a daunting task. You have to think of yourself, your
guests, your wedding party, the vendors, expenses, and a slew of other things
for your wedding day.
You
need help - a bride can't do it all herself and keep her sanity. But
sometimes, others will cross the line and almost intimidate you into doing what
they want - not what you wanted for your special wedding day.
Maybe
it's a pushy best friend talking you out of every decision you had planned
for the last 15 years since you were a teenager. Or it might be your own
dear mom - shaking her head and frowning when you tell her you want a trendy
colorful wedding dress instead of traditional white on your wedding day walk
down the aisle.
It can take all of the pleasure out of planning your wedding day when other people disapprove of your plans. But you have to bolster yourself against the frenzy of opinions that will be bombarding you and learn how to do it without getting yourself worked up.
What
often happens, though, is that a family member or friend becomes the
overbearing element in your wedding day planning - and you feel awful at the
thought of having to put them in their place. You worry that feelings
will get hurt or even worse - an argument will ensue - and this is supposed to
be the happiest time of your life!
Here's
how to deal with overbearing family members: "Mom, can we talk a minute?
You know I respect and value your opinion more than anything in the
world. But ever since I was a kid, I've had this idea in my head of how
exciting it would be to plan my wedding day. I know you're probably able
to spot all of the errors I'm making, so I know it's frustrating for you when I
go my own direction, but I really need your support so we can just have fun
doing this without arguing over the details."
Mom
should realize she's being a damper on your planning process, but if she
doesn't, simply smile at her, kiss her on the cheek, and say, "Well don't
be mad if do this my own way!" and then go on about your business getting
everything ready for your wedding day the way you wanted it. If she
continues butting in during the planning process, just smile and say, "I
appreciate your advice, but I'm going to go with my idea."
Some people just love to argue. If you encounter someone who won't let it die and wants to ruin your wedding day plans, then you need to keep away from that person as much as possible while you carry out your dreams. Yes, it's heart-wrenching, but this is your wedding day - not theirs. Treat yourself right and enjoy picking that red wedding dress or blue bouquet!
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